Developing Communication Skills

Relationship Building

Arena Congregational Church
Leslie R. Shultz II, Pastor
383 Oak Street, PO Box 125
Arena, Wisconsin 53503-0125
Pastor's Home 608.588.3569
Pastor's E-mail: les@lesandhelga.com
Telephone: Church, 608.753.2242

INSTRUCTIONS

Answer each item by checking the response that most closely represents your opinion or feelings. Respond to each item as candidly as is possible This is NOT A TEST so relax and enjoy yourself

This information. unless you choose to release it to your fiancée, will be kept in the strictest confidence. This is with the realization that using the web does create a certain, but small level of vulnerability.

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Thank you, Pastor Shultz

1.    I honestly feel that communication is one area we

are very good at

are okay with

should work harder on

have some problems with

2.    My fiancée readily shares his/her feelings with me

agree

disagree

3.    Sex is one subject we don't talk much about

agree

disagree

4.    There are times when it is difficult to get my fiancée's attention

agree

disagree

5.    My fiancée) attempts to "spare me" from his/her bad moods

agree

disagree

6.    How much time do you spend talking together

a lot

a moderate amount

less than I would like

very little

7.    I have seen my fiancée) cry

agree

disagree

8.    If my fiancée has a difficult decision to make she/he

consults with me always

consults with me occasionally

works it out on his/her own

9.    My future spouse is

a better listener than talker

a better talker than listener

10.    When it comes to sharing my feelings I think we

share adequately

are kind of hesitant to share

need to share more

have real difficulty sharing

11.     Who tends to control your conversations?

I do

my future spouse does

12.    It is difficult to share my feelings with my partner when I am disappointed in her/him

agree

disagree

13.    The time and place when we talk most is

in the car

when we eat together

just sitting around

when out on a "date"

other (explain below)
   

14.    I know my fiancée's dreams for the future concerning work, relationships, and our marriage/family life

yes

no

15.    One thing we seldom discuss is

religion

sex

money

in-laws

emotions

other (explain below)
   

16.    I wish we could talk more about

our feelings

financial plans

future plans

in-laws

sex

religious or spiritual matters

resolving conflicts

family plans

Other (explain below)
   

17.    Conflict is not a good thing in marriage

agree

disagree

18.    My fiancée) is usually open to hearing other's opinions and/or changing his/her mind on an issue through discussion

agree

disagree

19.    When we disagree my first reaction is

argue verbally

use the "silent treatment"

give in

20.    My partner is

open-minded

very opinionated

set in her/his ways

21.    A tactic I use when we argue is

mentioning an old boy/girl-friend

bringing up past mistakes

not saying anything

sarcasm

raising my voice

other (explain below)
   

I never use unfair tactics in conflict.

22.    A tactic my future spouse uses in arguments is

mentioning an old boy/girl-friend

bringing up past mistakes

not saying anything

sarcasm

raising my voice

other (explain below)
   

I never use unfair tactics in conflict.

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